Talent vs. Hard Work

Personal Musings

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Talented people are sought out in school, workplaces and field. They are quite rare that when we spot one, we have the instinctive reaction to acknowledge and nurture them. Teachers and mentors try to bring out the most of these people’s talents to put them into good use. Whether we like it or not, they are always one step ahead of those who are normal or close to being ordinary. Yet, more than anything, hard work gives someone the power to be three steps ahead.

A recent study by David Z. Hambrick and Elizabeth J. Meinz shows that profoundly gifted people outshine those who have less natural talent. But psychologist Anders Ericsson has estimated that it takes approximately 10,000 hours of practice to become a professional. So which one should people go after?

It was found that talent is not acquired but inborn or natural in some people. Talent will never come to people no matter how hard they practice. So if they chase after the right thing, they might just find themselves in greater places.

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Hard work sounds exactly like itself and it is even rarer to find people who believe in its power and try to nurture this value. Statistics show that Japanese people are the most competent people in the world. They invest most of their time to practice in their field, and, as much as possible, they work during holidays. Their culture is also very rich and well-preserved because they put effort in learning and applying them in their lives.

Hard working people get way ahead from those who have natural talent. They are most likely to become successful than the latter. However, above these two, a person who has talent and works hard to develop it and excel in his field is even more difficult to find. We often see them in TV shows, books, and manga, but we get to find the real deal only once or twice in our lifetime.

If you have talent and you still want more, or if you’re not talented but motivated to take higher leaps in life, then it’s not yet too late for you. Guess what, the world is so fast that people would choose to sit in the corner and just observe the way it would turn out. If you stand and act to improve yourself, you are closer to those people who changed and impacted the world. “Hard work beats talent when it fails to work hard.” Instead of getting worked up about the gifts that we do and do not have, we should try to create long-lasting values to help ourselves first.

We can use the mentality of Japanese people as example. Holidays can only be taken after we can prove that we have worked hard. Be someone who, at the end of the day, deserves every praise and appreciation.

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Sometimes BPD is a Choice

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“People with BPD are especially sensitive to feelings of rejection, isolation and perceived failure.”

“Before learning other coping mechanisms, their efforts to manage or escape from their intense negative emotions may lead to self-injury or suicidal behavior.”

“They are often aware of the intensity of their negative emotional reactions and, since they cannot regulate them, they shut them down entirely.”

“People with BPD tend to have trouble seeing a clear picture of their identity. In particular, they tend to have difficulty knowing what they value and enjoy.”

“They are often unsure about their long-term goals for relationships and jobs. This difficulty with knowing who they are and what they value can cause people with BPD to experience feeling “empty” and “lost”.”

“When mistreated, the patient feels helpless, demoralized, and victimized. These feelings activates the patient’s generalized early experiences of mistreatment and how he or she learned to respond.”

Borderline Personality Disorder is an intriguing mental disorder for psychiatrists or psychologists. I have read that some psychiatrists refused to treat BPD patients because they have extreme moodswings and their self-centeredness is a big problem to everyone around them.
But the patients actually carry most of the burden of this disorder.

I discovered BPD two months ago and fervently studied about it. Why? Well, it’s because I knew someone who has every symptom of this disorder. She has the simplest signs when she was just 12 and now she is 18 and it has gotten really bad.

Everytime a person mistreats her, she just shuts out the whole world and contains herself in her own thoughts and emotions. Her relationships and ties are strained often because of her mood swings and self-indulgent behaviors. When she has a bad day or when she faces conflicts, she imagines about killing herself or planning to set up an accident to hurt herself. She inflict scars on her own arms and feet because she somehow wants to replace the emptiness or numbness with pain. She is very self-destructive and anxious all the time.

Her world is almost close and lifeless. I convinced her to make an appointment with a psychiatrist. She only brushed me off.
At first, I hated seeing her in that condition, however, I was instantly relieved two weeks later when she showed up beaming and full of life. Her thoughts were: “Ha! There was nothing to worry about, after all. I might be sick or whatever but I won’t succumb to it. I want to be confident with myself. Thinking about having BPD will only hold me back and ruin my life.”

It wasn’t like she recovered or her personality disorder just disappeared. She trained herself so that she would stop overthinking things and hiding from the harsh world. Every now and then she shuts out people who violates or mistreats her but she avoided the thoughts about hurting herself. Now, she is a communication (major in journalism) student and through her choice she studies how to be an effective communicator. She is actually in her second year now. I sometimes thought that maybe she already knew her weakness even before she knew about BPD and she chose to study communication just to learn how to connect to people and find her place in the world.

Something might be wrong on how her mind and feelings work but, in the end, it is still her choice.

I really respect her and I hope that she finds someone who will love her completely and help her become happy.

Philosophy to Real Life (1. Bullying)

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Philosophy is the quest for ideas and knowledge for application to real life. It has firm but indistinct grasp on all disciplines and subjects. By using rationality and critical thinking, philosophy ultimately leads to the discovery of truth.

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Either actual or cyber bullying affect the youth enormously. In this event, those who are bullied, and those who are bullying are all impacted negatively. The ones who are bullied may become physically or mentally unhealthy, or lose motivation in studying. Those who are bullying others might engage to risky and violent behaviours until they become adult. Bullying can also just add fires to situation where those who are involved are unstable or unsupported by families and friends. The worst case scenario caused by this issue is suicide.

Yet, through the application of knowledge and ideas – with reason and rationality – to these situations, bullying can turn into proper clashing or harmless fights and successful communication. Bullying is produced by conflicts that set off the violence from the person who bully.

In this definition of philosophy, the youth would think before they talk or seek for reason before they kick, and find the truth by choosing their own battles.

Young people these days are naturally impulsive. Rather than avoiding dangerous events, they like to encounter fights for the sake of excitement and pride. Through racking their minds for reality, they might do better than attacking mindlessly.